WHAT IS NOT IN EPHESIANS 6:4?
THE TEXT: “And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger;
but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of
THE STATE is not in Eph. 6:4. Educational institutions cannot be counted on, especially for moral teaching. In fact, you had better be watchful because some schools may even promote the exact opposite of your values. Your child might be encouraged to reject God as the Creator, reject the counsel of Scripture and explore their sexuality, even to the extent of homosexual conduct. Keeping a pulse on your child’s education is more important now than ever.
THE LOCAL CHURCH is not in Eph. 6:4. As important as local churches can be in assisting parents in the great responsibility, God never instructed a group of Christians to raise my children to know the Lord. He instead charges every father with that responsibility.
An institutional mindset about the church and her Bible classes is very easily developed. We may squawk, and rightfully so, at liberal churches usurping the parental role of providing entertainment for our children. On the other hand, if we depend completely on the local church to instruct our children in the Lord’s way, have we not abdicated the responsibility God gave to us to “the institution?”
How many examples could be cited of children who sat in Bible classes Sunday after Sunday and Wednesday after Wednesday who no longer serve the Lord? And of those examples, what percentage do you suppose received very little teaching in the home?How many of them heard very little positive being said about the brethren or about serving them? How many prayers were prayed besides at mealtimes, if even then?
Bible classes should merely supplement the greater, daily, life-consistent, short-term work of parents in the home. Yes, it is short-term work. Eighteen years fly by seemingly in a moment. That means training children is an urgent work. The greatest spiritual influence is not the quality of their Bible classes or the talents of those who teach them, but the example and behavior of parents. The local church is no substitute for “…you shall teach them (God’s word, His desires) diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up” (Deut. 6:7).
MOM is not in Eph. 6:4. Certainly, Mom can be an invaluable asset in rearing children to know the Lord. Timothy’s mother and grandmother serve as a great example (2 Tim. 1:5; 3:14-17). If the father does not fulfill his God-given responsibility, then a mother who cares about the souls of her children must shoulder the responsibility. But our passage calls for leadership from the husband and father! He may employ the assistance of his helper, his godly wife, but the responsibility is still his nonetheless.
Does a perception exist that Bible study is not manly? Do some think “That’s woman’s work”? The example of Jesus, the ultimate Man, dispels such a notion. Fathers, step up to the plate! Read the Bible with and to your kids. Present its treasures to them as just that…a treasure-trove full of wisdom. Speak specifically of application. Warn them of potential dangers. Explain your trust in and love for God. Pray with them. Teach them to pray. Display contentment. Do not murmur. Rejoice. Paint a clear portrait of real manhood and womanhood (a Biblical definition). Show them a loving, honoring, self-sacrificing relationship between husband and wife.
Let them know that what you want for them more than anything, and I do mean anything, is for them to become Christians and to go to heaven when they die. Once they have obeyed the gospel of the Lord Jesus, further admonish them to live obediently, genuinely as Christians and to be an upstanding example for others to imitate.
What is the focus of your home? Dare you ask your children for the answer to that question! You might want to think about doing so for the sake of their souls’ salvation and your own. These most precious souls need instruction in the good and right way before it is too late (cf. 1 Sam. 12:23).
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